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The Benefits of Male-Female Marriage: Why It Should Remain the Norm

Understanding God's Divine Design for the Sacred Union Between Man and Woman

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." - Genesis 2:24 (KJV)

Marriage is not a human invention subject to redefinition by popular opinion or cultural trends. Marriage is a divine institution established by God Himself from the very beginning of creation. When God created Adam, He declared it was not good for man to be alone, and He created Eve—a woman—to be Adam's helper and companion. This foundational truth reveals God's perfect design: marriage is the lifelong, covenantal union between one man and one woman. This divine pattern has blessed humanity for millennia, and departing from it brings devastating consequences both individually and societally. Let us examine what Scripture teaches about God's design for marriage and why this truth must be upheld.

God's Creation of Marriage Between Male and Female

Marriage did not evolve through human social development—it was purposefully designed and instituted by God at creation. The book of Genesis records this foundational truth:

"And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him... And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." - Genesis 2:18, 21-24 (KJV)

This passage establishes several crucial truths about God's design for marriage. First, God Himself determined that man needed a companion. Second, God specifically created a female to complement the male. Third, God instituted the marriage relationship between man and woman before sin ever entered the world, meaning marriage reflects God's perfect will. Fourth, marriage creates a one-flesh union between husband and wife. And fifth, this pattern was established as the template for all human marriages—a man shall leave his parents and cleave to his wife.

Jesus Christ Himself affirmed this creation ordinance when the Pharisees questioned Him about divorce:

"And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Matthew 19:4-6 (KJV)

Jesus pointed back to Genesis, confirming that from the beginning God made human beings male and female, and that God's design for marriage involves a man leaving his parents to unite with his wife. This is not culturally conditioned or time-bound—this is God's unchanging design for all humanity. Paul also affirms this pattern:

"For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church." - Ephesians 5:31-32 (KJV)

Paul reveals that the marriage union between husband and wife is so significant that it serves as a picture of Christ's relationship with His Church. This sacred symbolism can only be fulfilled in the complementary union of male and female.

God's Condemnation of Sexual Immorality

While God's Word clearly establishes His design for marriage, it equally clearly condemns all sexual activity outside of the marriage covenant between one man and one woman. This includes fornication (sex before marriage), adultery (sex with someone other than one's spouse), and homosexuality (sexual relations between members of the same sex). These are not arbitrary restrictions—they reflect God's holy character and His loving design for human flourishing.

The Old Testament Law explicitly prohibited homosexual behavior:

"Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination." - Leviticus 18:22 (KJV)

"If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them." - Leviticus 20:13 (KJV)

Some argue that these Old Testament laws no longer apply to Christians. However, the New Testament equally condemns homosexual practice. Paul writes to the Roman church:

"For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient." - Romans 1:26-28 (KJV)

Paul describes homosexual behavior as "against nature," "vile affections," and "unseemly." He identifies it as a consequence of suppressing the truth about God. This is not harsh judgment—this is loving truth. God's moral law reflects His holy character and promotes human flourishing. Violating His design brings harmful consequences.

Paul lists homosexual offenders among those who will not inherit God's kingdom:

"Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God." - 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (KJV)

The terms "effeminate" and "abusers of themselves with mankind" refer to homosexual practice. However, Paul immediately follows with glorious good news:

"And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God." - 1 Corinthians 6:11 (KJV)

Some in the Corinthian church had practiced these sins, including homosexuality, but they had been transformed by God's grace through faith in Jesus Christ. The gospel offers hope and deliverance to all sinners who repent and believe.

The Complementary Design of Male and Female

God created male and female with distinct yet complementary characteristics. These differences are not merely social constructs—they are biological, psychological, and spiritual realities built into creation. The Bible teaches that God designed men and women for different but equally important roles:

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." - 1 Corinthians 11:3 (KJV)

God has established a loving order within marriage where the husband serves as the loving head of the wife, just as Christ is the head of the Church. This is not tyranny or oppression—it is loving leadership and sacrificial service. Paul explains:

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." - Ephesians 5:22-25 (KJV)

The husband's headship involves sacrificial love modeled after Christ's love for the Church. The wife's submission is a response to godly leadership. This beautiful dynamic can only function properly in a marriage between male and female. Peter adds:

"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered." - 1 Peter 3:7 (KJV)

Husbands are to honor their wives, recognizing both the physical differences and the spiritual equality they share as joint heirs of God's grace. This complementarian relationship reflects God's wisdom in creating male and female.

The Procreation Mandate and Raising Godly Children

One of God's primary purposes for marriage is the procreation and nurture of children. God commanded the first couple:

"And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth." - Genesis 1:28 (KJV)

By design, only the union of male and female can produce biological children. This is not an accident—it is God's purposeful plan. Children need both mothers and fathers. The complementary contributions of both parents provide the best environment for raising children. Scripture declares:

"Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate." - Psalm 127:3-5 (KJV)

Children are a blessing from God, not a burden to be avoided. God commands parents to train their children diligently in His ways:

"And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up." - Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (KJV)

Fathers have a special responsibility to raise their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord:

"And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." - Ephesians 6:4 (KJV)

Mothers have a unique calling to love their husbands and children:

"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." - Titus 2:4-5 (KJV)

The Covenant Nature of Biblical Marriage

Marriage in Scripture is not merely a civil contract that can be easily dissolved—it is a sacred covenant before God. The prophet Malachi rebukes Israel for breaking faith with their wives:

"Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously." - Malachi 2:14-16 (KJV)

God witnesses every marriage covenant and holds spouses accountable to their vows. Marriage is designed to be permanent—until death separates husband and wife. Jesus taught:

"What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." - Mark 10:9 (KJV)

The permanence of marriage reflects God's unchanging faithfulness to His covenant people. Paul writes:

"For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband." - Romans 7:2 (KJV)

The Social Benefits of Biblical Marriage

God's design for marriage between one man and one woman provides immeasurable benefits to society. When marriages are strong, families are stable. When families are stable, communities thrive. The biblical family structure provides children with the security and nurture they need to develop into responsible, productive adults. Scripture promises:

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." - Proverbs 22:6 (KJV)

Societies that honor biblical marriage reap the blessings of stability, morality, and prosperity. Those that reject God's design experience breakdown, confusion, and decline. Solomon observed:

"Righteousness exalteth a nation: but sin is a reproach to any people." - Proverbs 14:34 (KJV)

When nations uphold God's moral standards, including His design for marriage, they prosper. When they reject His ways, they suffer the consequences.

The Gospel Hope for All Sinners

While we must uncompromisingly proclaim God's truth about marriage and sexual morality, we must equally proclaim the good news that Jesus Christ came to save sinners. Every person—whether guilty of sexual immorality, pride, greed, anger, or any other sin—stands condemned before a holy God. But Jesus died on the cross to pay the penalty for our sins and rose from the dead to give us new life.

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved." - John 3:16-17 (KJV)

No sin is too great for God's grace. Those struggling with homosexual desires or any other sexual temptation can find deliverance and transformation through faith in Jesus Christ. Paul's testimony to the Corinthians proves this—some of them had been enslaved to homosexual sin, but they were washed, sanctified, and justified in the name of the Lord Jesus.

Jesus offers freedom to all who come to Him:

"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." - Matthew 11:28-30 (KJV)

If you are living in sexual sin, God calls you to repent and believe the gospel:

"Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord." - Acts 3:19 (KJV)

God promises forgiveness and cleansing to all who confess their sins:

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." - 1 John 1:9 (KJV)

Standing for Truth in a Compromising Age

In our modern culture, speaking biblical truth about marriage and sexuality is increasingly unpopular and even criminalized. But Christians must obey God rather than men. We cannot compromise God's Word to accommodate cultural trends or popular opinion. Jesus warned:

"If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you." - John 15:18-19 (KJV)

We must speak the truth in love, even when it costs us socially, professionally, or legally. Paul charges Timothy:

"Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." - 2 Timothy 4:2-4 (KJV)

We live in such a time. Many have turned away from biblical truth to embrace doctrines that accommodate sinful desires. But faithful Christians must continue proclaiming God's Word regardless of the response. Peter and the apostles declared:

"We ought to obey God rather than men." - Acts 5:29 (KJV)

Embrace God's Perfect Design

Marriage between one man and one woman is not a cultural preference—it is God's unchanging design revealed in Scripture and written on human nature. This truth benefits individuals, families, and societies. Those living contrary to God's design must repent and turn to Christ for forgiveness and transformation. Those who honor His design will experience the blessings He intended for marriage. Let us stand firmly on God's Word, proclaim His truth with love, and trust that His ways are perfect. Will you submit to God's authority in this area? Will you defend biblical marriage? And most importantly, will you place your faith in Jesus Christ, who alone can forgive your sins and give you eternal life?

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