1. Seek God First (Matthew 6:33)

Your relationship with God should be your primary focus. A romantic relationship should enhance, not replace, your devotion to Christ.

2. Equally Yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14)

Pursue relationships with fellow believers who share your commitment to following Christ and biblical values.

3. Purity of Heart and Body (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8)

Maintain sexual purity and emotional integrity throughout the dating process, saving intimacy for marriage.

4. Love is Patient and Kind (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

Look for and demonstrate genuine love characteristics—patience, kindness, humility, and commitment to the other's good.

5. Wise Counsel (Proverbs 27:17)

Involve mature Christians in your dating decisions and be open to their counsel and accountability.

Christian-Specific Platforms

Mainstream Platforms

Photos That Honor God

• Modest Clothing: Choose photos that reflect your values and won't cause others to stumble
• Genuine Smiles: Show your authentic personality and joy in Christ
• Variety of Settings: Include photos from church, serving others, and enjoying God's creation
• Avoid Misleading: Use recent photos that accurately represent how you look
• Quality Over Quantity: Choose a few great photos rather than many mediocre ones

Writing About Your Faith

• Be Authentic: Share genuinely about your faith journey, not just religious buzzwords
• Show, Don't Just Tell: Mention how you live out your faith practically
• Avoid Preaching: Be welcoming rather than judgmental in your language
• Include Church Involvement: Mention your home church and ways you serve
• Express Your Values: Clearly communicate what's important to you in relationships

What to Include

• Your relationship with Jesus and what it means to you
• Church involvement and ministry participation
• Your hopes for a future marriage and family
• Hobbies and interests that reflect your personality
• What you're looking for in a potential partner
• Your approach to dating (intentional, pursuing marriage, etc.)

Green Flags (Positive Signs)

• Clear Faith Expression: Genuine discussion of their relationship with God
• Church Involvement: Active participation in a local church community
• Servant Heart: Evidence of serving others and living out their faith
• Character Focus: More emphasis on character than appearance
• Intentional Dating: Clear about wanting a serious, marriage-minded relationship
• Healthy Boundaries: Respectful communication and appropriate expectations
• Consistency: Their words, photos, and actions align with each other

Red Flags (Warning Signs)

• Vague Faith: Generic spiritual language without specific Christian commitment
• Inappropriate Photos: Revealing clothing or party-focused lifestyle
• Negative Tone: Complaints, bitterness, or criticizing others
• Inconsistencies: Information that doesn't add up or seems contradictory
• Too Good to Be True: Perfect profile that seems unrealistic
• Pressure for Quick Meetings: Pushing to meet very quickly without proper conversation
• Sexual Content: Inappropriate messages or sexual innuendos early on

Be Genuinely Interested

Ask thoughtful questions about their faith, interests, and goals. Show that you're interested in them as a person, not just looking for any relationship.

Maintain Appropriate Boundaries

Keep conversations appropriate and avoid sexual topics, intimate details, or overly personal information too early in the relationship.

Share Your Faith Naturally

Let conversations about faith flow naturally rather than forcing spiritual topics. Share how God is working in your life and ask about their spiritual journey.

Be Honest and Transparent

Represent yourself accurately and honestly. Don't create a false persona or hide important aspects of your life and personality.

Progress at a Healthy Pace

Don't rush into deep emotional intimacy or serious commitments before you've had time to really know each other.

Include Others

Share about your friends, family, and church community. Healthy people have healthy relationships with others.

Safety First

• Public Places: Always meet in public, well-lit locations for first several dates
• Tell Others: Inform trusted friends or family about your plans and check in with them
• Own Transportation: Drive yourself or use your own ride service
• Phone Calls First: Have several phone conversations before meeting in person
• Trust Your Instincts: If something feels off, don't ignore that feeling

Timing

• Don't Rush: Take time to get to know each other online first
• Don't Wait Too Long: Extended online-only relationships can create false intimacy
• Mutual Readiness: Both people should feel comfortable and excited about meeting
• Plan Together: Collaborate on first date plans to ensure both are comfortable

First Date Ideas

• Coffee or Lunch: Casual, time-limited opportunities to talk
• Church Events: Attend a church service or Christian event together
• Group Activities: Join friends for activities to reduce pressure
• Daytime Activities: Museums, farmers markets, or outdoor activities
• Service Projects: Volunteer together to see their heart for others

Remember God's Sovereignty

Trust that God has a plan for your love life. Rejection might be His protection, redirecting you toward His best for you.

Don't Take It Personally

Online rejection is often about compatibility, not your worth as a person. Stay confident in your identity in Christ.

Learn and Grow

Use dating experiences as opportunities to learn about yourself, what you want in a partner, and how to communicate better.

Maintain Perspective

Your worth isn't determined by your relationship status. Focus on growing in Christ and serving others while you wait.

Be Gracious in Rejection

When you need to end communication with someone, do so kindly and clearly. Treat others as you'd want to be treated.

Daily Prayer: Pray about your dating life and ask God to guide your decisions

Scripture Reading: Stay grounded in God's Word and His design for relationships

Accountability: Have Christian friends who can speak truth into your dating life

Time Limits: Don't spend excessive time on dating apps—set healthy boundaries

Church Priority: Never let dating interfere with your church involvement and spiritual growth

Identity in Christ: Remember that your worth comes from being God's child, not from finding a relationship

Regular Breaks: Take periodic breaks from dating apps to reset your perspective and focus on God

Faith and Spirituality

• How did you come to faith in Christ?
• What does your daily relationship with God look like?
• How do you want faith to be central in marriage?
• What role does your church play in your life?

Life Goals and Values

• What are your goals for the next 5-10 years?
• How do you handle conflict and disagreement?
• What does biblical marriage look like to you?
• Do you want children? How do you want to raise them?

Character and Integrity

• How do you handle stress and difficult situations?
• What are you working on in terms of personal growth?
• How do you approach forgiveness and grace?
• What would your close friends say about your character?

Practical Compatibility

• How do you approach finances and money management?
• What are your thoughts on work-life balance?
• How important is family involvement in your life?
• What does healthy communication look like to you?